Enough of Enough: Reframing our Doubt

Ever felt the sting of “Am I enough?”—like there’s a hidden bar you’ll never reach? We open up about that heavy question and trace why it breeds fear, shame, and giving up, then trade it for a truer path: becoming through Christ. Instead of chasing a finish line that keeps moving, we walk through how grace reframes the whole journey—before, during, and after our best efforts.

We unpack the tension between the law of justice and the mercy of the Atonement, showing how qualification is not a solo achievement but a relationship with the Savior. You’ll hear why asking “Am I turned toward Christ?” is more liberating than grading yourself against imagined standards, and how that shift restores courage at work, in dating, and in church callings. Along the way, we bring in wisdom from leaders—“Whom God calls, God qualifies”—and explore the original sense of “be perfect” as becoming complete in Christ, not flawless on our own.

This conversation is equal parts theology and practice. We get specific about reframing the scripts that sabotage progress, noticing the moments where shame tries to rule, and choosing small, willing steps that invite enabling grace. If your heart needs relief from self-measurement and your faith needs fuel, this is a map back to steady ground: by ourselves, never enough; with Christ, always becoming.

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Transcript

Welcome And Purpose Of The Show

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Welcome to Hear Him Heal You with Morgan and Joel. This podcast is for those who are imperfect and rough around the edges, but are still wanting to come under Christ. Essentially, it's for everyone. So join us to get yourself out of the mental manner, find meaning and emotion, and leave that behind. This is where we hear him to be healed. Welcome back, um, Lil Flock.

The Deceptive Question: Am I Enough

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I think this is something that's been on my mind um that has for the last little while. And it's something I run into quite frequently, especially when I'm up against something that I kind of doubt my capabilities or like um I'm I don't feel I'm deserving of. And it's always this question, am I enough? And to be honest, like I feel like this is a very devious question. Because honestly, at the end of the day, um I feel like it does more harm than good to give it energy and to give our faculties to this. And I kind of want to dive into why I think this is a devious question. And there's better questions for us to think about and put our our mind to. And the first thing is every time I ask this question, like at work, if I'm having a bad month, I'm like, Am I good enough for this job? Or if I'm out dating and I get rejected, um, or something like that. And it's like, Am I good enough for anyone? Right, when it comes to dating. And I I just realized over and over again that this question just stems from doubt and fear. And it's not coming from a place of strength, it's not coming from a place of faith. And I wanted to really dive into why this question separates us from Christ. Um, because I have plenty of people who who ask this question or who I see are struggling with this question. Like, are they good enough for the church? Um, like, are they good enough to perform this calling um or do this job, kind of like I already mentioned? Like, I'm not the only one I feel like is experiencing the the struggles of of this. And the reason I think it is

Fear, Standards, And Catastrophizing

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so such a hard question to answer is who's to say that we are enough? And I know you guys are probably gonna be like, yeah, it's Heavenly Father, but a lot of times we are not asking that too Heavenly Father. I feel like sometimes we're asking ourselves or just throwing out there into the void. And um, the reason I bring that up is because enough signifies a finite state or a standard that needs to be met, or we have to be as much as as required. And the reason why that's such an important thing for for me to signify is like if we're already wondering if we are enough for XYZ, we're sitting there trying to figure out what the standard is. We might not know what the standard is, we know we might not know what is required, and so it feels like an impossible task. And when we feel like we're up against an impossible task, we we kind of overreact, we start to catastrophize and and really just kind of go a little bit insane because we're like, I don't know how to do this, I can't do this, and then eventually we go from this place of trying, and maybe we're failing, or trying and not getting the success we want. Then this question starts to stand to our mind, and then we start saying, Am I enough? And then it makes us doubt. And then it's like, what is the point? What is the point of me doing this job, doing this calling, dating, like trying? And eventually we're like, Well, if I'm never gonna be enough and I'm never gonna get to the success, I might as well not try at all. And that is the part where I think that question leads to is we give up, and I

Why “Enough” Separates Us From Christ

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think giving up on ourselves is the last thing our Heavenly Father wants for us. I just feel like I just really feel like this question just creates all these emotions and variety of feelings that are so hard to deal with. Like when I hear that, when I think about that question, am I enough? It kind of just feels like there is a basic level I have to mate before I can get love and blessings from my Heavenly Father. Or it feels like I have to do all this work before I receive what I deserve. Or it kind of just makes me feel like I'm all on my own. I'm left out in the left out in the cold to do all these things. Or it makes me feel like there's this idealistic state that has to be attained, and because I'm not perfect, I will never get those things. So it's always unattainable. And at the end of the day, it also just like makes me feel unworthy. And I think a lot of people feel that way too. And and really the the question of asking ourselves, are we enough? is it's it's not real and it's deceptive, in my opinion. And it's a tool of the adversary for us to start questioning ourselves. Um, it places an overemphasis on our weaknesses, and whenever there's an overemphasis on our weaknesses, we tend to feel worse about ourselves, and it starts to rob our faith, and it creates a sense of fear, and that once again displaces our faith in Christ. And and really it's that's why like it creates all those that myriad of feelings I was talking about. Because the true reality is is we are worthy or we are loved by God. Actually, let me back up. Um the reality is we are or we're not. There is no question, like in the present moment, I am either have the capa capabilities to do a job, to do what is needed of me, or I do really do not. And what's great is I don't have to change or become by myself. In fact, I can't change or become by myself because only when we bring Christ into the equation do we ever become enough.

Justice, Atonement, And True Qualification

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So by ourselves, we are never enough, but with Christ, we are always enough, and that is the question here or the answer here. Like, God will always qualify us when he calls us to do something, or if he has commanded us to do something. There's lots of commandments out there that seem like we can't accomplish them, and the truth is we can't accomplish them with by ourselves. It really does require God to enter in and be a part of it. And the reason why I want to kind of dive a little bit deeper into this, the first thing that I really want to emphasize is this word enough, like that question, am I good enough? And the law of justice are best friends, I would say. The reason I say that is the law of justice basically says if we commit any sin or any flaw or any perfection we have, we are immediately not enough. We can never enter into God's presence, like there's no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Like, and the law of justice also states that we can never be forgiven either. And because, and I'll get back to this, like, because if Christ had never come in into the equation, so the reason why Christ became our savior is he was a perfect being who chose to come to this earth and take upon all the punishment suffering and pain that we experienced as a means to satisfy the law of justice. Justice said someone has to pay for all the wrongdoing, essentially. Christ chose to accept all the punishment, and because of that, he now became because he did that, he now had the chance to write out our salvation. So he satisfied the law of justice, so justice could be satisfied, be full, like it wouldn't have any capture or any presence over us if we met Christ's demands for salvation. And Christ's demands is that we repent, we come to him with a broken heart and a contrite spirit, and offer up all our weaknesses and sins to him, and he would offer forgiveness. Only Christ can offer forgiveness and make us more than we are, because he's the holder of the keys to our salvation, to our return to our Heavenly Father, and to our healing and our eventual perfection as well. So that's why I don't think asking the question, Am I enough, is a very good one. Because the answer is always no, you're not enough. We become enough through Christ.

Replace “Enough” With “Becoming”

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That question separates us from Christ because it's signifying that we have to do it all on our own. And so that's why I think we need to start replacing the am I enough with the word becoming. Enough implies there's a finish line out there that we have to cross before God can help us. Becoming signifies that we're becoming stronger through Christ to actually run the race and cross the finish line. All the work of becoming is done before the race. So, like, to put this in perspective, Christ did all the work even before we became into existence. He provided the means and our motivation to become strong enough, and he accompanies us through the race all the way through the finish line too. And so I think when we're in a situation where we're like, Am I enough? We should automatically ask ourselves, Am I turned toward Christ? Am I reliant on Christ? And just like in the Beatitudes or the Sermon on the Mount, Christ essentially says perfection, he he he commands us to be perfect as his father is in heaven, right? However, in the Greek connotation of perfection, perfection is not flawlessness, it actually means complete or finished in Christ. It's a long-term process rather than a state of being. Asking ourselves if am I enough is a question about our current state of being, and not if we're engaged in a in a long-term process of becoming. One of my favorite quotes by President Nelson is, and I love this, and I think it applies directly to our desire to become and trying to overcome this idea that we have to be perfect. And he says, We all need to remember that men are that they might have joy, not guilt trips. I think we often, like when we ask ourselves, Am I enough? We're choosing the guilt trips

Grace Before, During, And After Our Efforts

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and we're not remembering that we're meant to have joy. And along these lines as well, coming back to the race idea is like sometimes we feel like we have to first cross that line before God can bless us. Coming back to this idea of like, sometimes we feel like becoming enough is feels like it's all on our own. But in the Book of Mormon and Helaman, we learn that it is by grace that we are saved after all we can do. And in the Continuous Atonement, Brad R. Wilcox goes over this, and he says, Sometimes we view after as like a chronological word, meaning that grace only takes effect, so we're great, we're only saved by grace after we've done our part. But he's like, after can have a lot of different meanings. Apart from all we can do. Our actions aren't what qualify us. We are qualified in spite of our actions. Like Christ is always working to make us better, make us more capable, so that way we can do everything we can or do what he wants us to do. If God were giving us commandments, knowing we were fully incapable, that would be a wouldn't be a very kind God if He was just constantly setting us up to fail. And that's why this important this scripture is so important, is we become qualified, we we become qualified because Christ entered the equation. So when we choose him and choose like we're going to attempt to obey in the camp commandment or do what he asks of us, we receive strength through grace of Jesus Christ. And it is and when we accomplish that or keep a commandment or receive forgiveness, it was because of Christ the whole time. And that's why this question, changing that question from am I enough to am I turned toward him, toward Christ, is so important. Because turning toward Christ signifies that we've made a choice to follow him, to attempt to be a part of him, rather than asking ourselves, Am I enough? and separating himself from us. And uh President Monson stated this in such a great way.

Leaders’ Counsel: God Qualifies The Willing

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Like one, I think he always this is like one of his most well, but he but most well-known quotes when he says, God calls, God qualifies. Whom God calls, God qualifies. He doesn't find people who are enough, meaning God doesn't find people enough people that arbitrary they've met the enough standard. He finds people who are willing and makes them more than enough to do the to do what is required. So Elder Holland provided the ultimate antidote to the question, Am I enough? and the fear that comes with it. Except, and this is what he said incept except in the case of his only begotten son, God has had to work with imperfect people. That must be terrible terribly frustrating to him, but he deals with it. So should we. God chooses to work with us in our imperfect state, and I'm sure it is super frustrating for him, but God's work rolls forward. In fact, I'm astounded at the pace that God works, God's work rolls forward with such imperfect people. And if God's work can roll forward at an accelerated pace, day after day, year after year, then we should have patience with ourselves as well. We have to work with our imperfect selves, but that doesn't mean we're not capable of going out there and doing great things. Turn toward Christ, be willing, use your agency to act, and you will become. And you will be enough through Christ. Stop

Final Charge: Turn Toward Christ

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using the question of am I enough to separate yourself from Christ or trying to do it all on your own. We can't do it all on our own. There's been things in my life that I have never been able to do by myself. Man, there's so many things. And the only reason that I've ever been able to do anything or help anyone is because Christ has created the foundation for me to find becoming to help me find strength. Each and every day, he is my motivation to get back up. The reason why, even at our rock bottom, we then choose to get back up and try again is because Christ entered in. By ourselves, we are never enough. So, with that said, little flock, remember, despair not, build upon the rock, do good, and always hear him.